Love First and Ask Questions Later

Whether you are in a relationship at the moment or you are looking for the perfect long-term companion, you may be interested in finding true love one day. But you may be asking yourself, ‘what exactly is true love’? The movies talk about it all the time, but does it even exist? Perhaps the bar is set a little too high.

Actually, no! True love does exist, and it’s closer than you might think. Whether it is love for yourself, someone you know, animals, or love for nature, there is a source of true love. One that you can tap into anytime and that experience joy. First, breathe. Then, find your spacial awareness. 

Loving Without Expectations

There’s a reason two people get together and form a relationship; in the beginning, there is a bond of love. But as the relationship progresses, expectations start to assert themselves, what one person wants from life, another person doesn’t; this starts to cause relationship tensions. 

The problem is that two people may have different ideas about what they want to do with their day, their weekend, or the rest of their lives. In many instances, these differences can cause a couple to move in different directions. But it is worth remembering and nurturing that first feeling. 

Loving Without Conditions

There are two kinds of love in the world: conditional and unconditional. Conditional love is when you have a relationship with someone, but it has some conditions attached. Maybe you feel as if you are never enough for that person, or you don’t enjoy being around them for some reason.   

These are signals that you are in a relationship based on conditional love. In short, there have to be the right conditions for you to feel like you are in a loving relationship; otherwise, it feels like a chore. Conversely, unconditional love is easy and accepting; you never feel like it’s hard work.  

Acts of Kindness

Kindness is one of the simplest forms of love. It shows an appreciation for other people, the environment, and other animals. This love is powerful and unconditional. Few people realize they have the power to bring more joy, appreciation, and love into the world simply by being kind. 

What was the last kind act you performed? Did you make your partner a cup of tea in the morning, hand a dropped item back to someone on the street, or visit a friend or neighbor when they weren't feeling well? These are all acts of kindness that display your huge capacity for love.  

Loving Without Expecting Anything in Return

If you can learn to love without expectations and without conditions, then you have learned the meaning of true love. Everyone has the capacity to love without expecting anything in return because the feeling of love is the reward. Questions and life situations unfold from this center. 

If you are having any doubts about the relationship you are in, rewind the clock to a moment when you felt strongly connected to this person. It might have been on a first date, on a weekend excursion, or a simple routine; this is where you can find your “love first” moment.  

If you are struggling to love someone close to you feel free to reach out to Rock Bottom Hope. We are always here to help.